Structures and restrictions safeguard the sacred. Part of the role of culture is to protect values that we cherish but that, in our daily lives, we do not experience as urgent. We recognize, for example, that exercise and solitude are important for our physical and emotional well-being, yet seldom is our sense of urgency powerful enough to induce us to honor those needs consistently. Cultures in which exercise and meditative solitude are built-in practices protect their members from that lack of motivation. As our culture erodes, the structures and rituals that protect family life and the sacredness of the parent-child — vitally important but not urgent in our consciousness — are also gradually eroded.
…We need some rites of attachment to safeguard the sacred, something that serves us in the long term so we don’t have to be conscious of it in the short term. — p. 205, Hold On to Your Kids, Neufield and Mate