Two Families
Yesterday we went to two birthday parties.
The first one we went to was of a homeschooling family. They are a family of nine in Sechenectady that are fellow parishioners. It is always neat to not only to have like minded Catholic people around, but like minded AP type people around. The mother asked where I got my sling, and I told her I was only able to find it on the Internet. I am never able to find baby products I really use in real life baby stores. “Yeah, practical stuff” she remarked. While my husband likes them, I think he felt a bit uncomfortable because each homeschooling family we know is at least 10 years then us.
Afterwards, we went to a birthday party of one of my husband’s co-worker’s sons. We actually did not know it was a birthday party, we just thought we were stopping by for a visit. This couple is a very nice couple, and I think my husband likes having another young, married couple around. They seem like they would give us the shirt off their back. I felt funny though because I had to guard everything I said because they are typical-pro-contraception, day care parents. At one point we were sitting at the kitchen table chit chatting and there was a pen on the table that said New York Family Planning Pro-Woman, Pro-Family, Pro-Choice. I almost screamed. I do not like being in situations where I may have to hold my pro-life tongue. Being pro-life is not merely a stand on an issue I take, it is who I am.
Of course the issue of “are you done?” came up. My husband’s coworker asked “do you want more kids because your husband says he wants more, but I was wondering about you“. I said “of course I want more”. I am kicking myself because of the missed opportunity of evangelisation, but I really get choked up at the subject. I never know how to talk about the subject because it is personal. That and of you get me started, I will go into a sililoquoy into Natural Law, the Vocation of Marriage blah, blah, blah. The hostess then said she always wanted more children, but her husband (who was right there) told her absolutely no more. Another guest remarked that kids are too expensive. He just finished two conversations about the new pool he was getting and a new custom made Trailblazer. Things that make you go “eeww”.
I know this may sound like a “Holier than thou” blog, like “can you imagine, see how these people think”! That is not my point. It is so frustrating that it is hard to meet other couples socially and while they are nice people, I cannot be around them too much because of the disagreement about what I think is right. Especially if they are pro-choice…I feel like I live in a bubble.