Wifely Submission Stuff
And when it comes time to decide how Hambet will be educated (parish school v. homeschool), the decison will be made the same way.
This is an example that comes to mind. Before we sent Rosey Posey to kindergarten, we thought about school choices-Catholic school or this homeschooling stuff we heard about. Public school was not an option, I had gone through the public school system. My husband had gone through the parochial school system and he was unimpressed by any Catholic pressence moral or theological. We considered homeschooling and I was doing the “but what if, but what if” stuff. My husband finally said to me point blank “try it for one year and see how it works out.” It was not an order but more of a firm decision where I could not find one. I took that firm choice as a sign from God through my husband. To be honest these types of decisions come few and far between. When they do come up, and my husband “takes the reigns” so to speak, I am actually quite comforted and relieved and try to leave the rest to God.
My example, I think, is quite similar to Peony’s. Now if my husband said something real whacked like “ok, let’s start a family business of drug trafficking” or something equally immoral or just plain crazy, I do not think it is necessary to be submissive.
The other dimension of “submission” people are talking about is day to day living. Cooking and cleaning, that sort of thing. I love being a housewife. Part of me shows love by acts of service such as feeding people and doing little things for them. The nature of love is it is pleasurable to give love as well as receive love. Somewhere, feminists decided that traditional housewife roles were a show of bondage as opposed to liberation-or something like that. But how is it demeaning to do what one wants with their life?Even if things go awry in a marriage, is it bad to hold on to the things that are stable, such as cooking, cleaning etc? Should someone throw out any show of love for someone in tough times?
I think perhaps this may differ from family to family. Some families, the women need to just get out. Some are situations that are temporary, or what ever. It is hard to say.
Peony, your marriage prep course sounded really cool. Ours was, well, it was not worth the time of day. I learned little to nothing about Catholic teaching on marriage in it.