{"id":2091,"date":"2008-06-04T16:31:38","date_gmt":"2008-06-04T21:31:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/moss-place.stblogs.org\/?p=2091"},"modified":"2008-06-04T16:31:38","modified_gmt":"2008-06-04T21:31:38","slug":"rod-drehera-dis","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/moss-place.stblogs.org\/index.php\/2008\/06\/rod-drehera-dis\/","title":{"rendered":"Rod Dreher-A Dissent on Ecological Breastfeeding<\/i><\/a>"},"content":{"rendered":"

Actually, EB aside, I thought this paragraph<\/a> was so familiar, and well, vindicating:<\/p>\n

It reminded me of how, early in my marriage, as my wife and I adjusted to NFP, Julie joined an NFP listserv, and mentioned that we were struggling with it. She never said, “And so we’re thinking about ceasing to follow NFP,” or anything like that. She just said that nothing in the literature prepared us for how difficult it could be to follow.
\nThe reaction was telling. She was completely ignored. It was weird, actually. Any idea that NFP is anything other than the perfect, most easily implemented way of life seemed forbidden in that online circle. It was as if you couldn’t admit to having problems with it, even within the context of fidelity to NFP. For an online support group, that was discouraging. She dropped off the list after that.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I friggin’ hate NFP. While I would never tell anyone not to use it, and I think every married couple should learn it, I hate it. Why? Six kids and counting. I love my kids, they are all blessings from God, but I have actively used NFP with the intentions of not having six kids. I know that in the catacombs of faithful married Catholics, I am positive I am not alone.
\nMr. Dreher links to And Sometimes Tea: The Great NFP Debate<\/i><\/a> which also has a comment (actually quite a few) that ring true to me as well:<\/p>\n

They may express the idea that a couple who doesn’t use NFP may experience periods of satiety, when their supposed lack of self-control has a dampening effect on the mystery and romance of marital union. They may even start to hint about a lack of prudence, or to discuss the importance of focused types of parenting.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I also hate the other<\/i> great NFP lie: That NFP is 99.999999% percent effective for everyone who takes the time to learn it. I think that is true, Deo Gratias, for a lot of people, so don’t think I am making excuses not to learn NFP. I think for some people, it just does not work very well for whatever reason.
\nI have been told that my only problem with NFP is a total lack of self-restraint on my part and I must have a secret porn addiction or<\/b> that I must be overly scrupulous and therefore what Red Cardigan calls a “QP”. Needless to say, “wha’ the?”
\nI am actually so jealous of people whose lives are so uncomplicated that this is a black and white issue for them.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Actually, EB aside, I thought this paragraph was so familiar, and well, vindicating: It reminded me of how, early in my marriage, as my wife and I adjusted to NFP, Julie joined an NFP listserv, and mentioned that we were struggling with it. She never said, “And so we’re thinking about ceasing to follow NFP,”… Continue reading Rod Dreher-A Dissent on Ecological Breastfeeding<\/i><\/a><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2091","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-parenting-and-family-life","entry"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/moss-place.stblogs.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2091","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/moss-place.stblogs.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/moss-place.stblogs.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/moss-place.stblogs.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/moss-place.stblogs.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2091"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/moss-place.stblogs.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2091\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/moss-place.stblogs.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2091"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/moss-place.stblogs.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2091"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/moss-place.stblogs.org\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2091"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}