Pansy and Peony

Under no circumstances should you ever put yourself in the position of giving or denying your spouse permission to go after something he or she wants, be it a thing, a personal goal, a certain amount of time or attention, or an emotional investment on your part. Negotiating the what (instead of the how and when) in marriage changes you from a partner into a parent, and it reduces your spouse from an adult to a child. Inevitably, this dynamic creates the kind of resentment that, if allowed to go unchecked, causes divorce.

~Excerpt from God Help Me, These People are Driving Me Nuts by Dr. Greg Popcak